Musings in the Dark: Ready or Not?


Ready or Not?

I recently ran across the following blog while surfing the ‘net.  Since I’m always talking about relationships and why I don’t want to get married, I thought it relevant to that ongoing conversation.  The post in question lists ten instances that depict that a woman is not ready to get married if...

The instances, in my opinion, are common sense.  Most of them center on selfishness and the failure to realize that a marriage is supposed to extend beyond the wedding. “Dirty” Harry Callahan, played by the marvelous Clint Eastwood, said: “A man’s got to know his limitations.”  It can be said that a woman’s got to know the same, especially when it comes to realizing if she’s ready (or not) to be a wife.


  1. Isn't it? And they are keeping that shit real as hell. It's funny, but scarily true. We both know women who fall under at least half of those descriptions.

  2. Why don't you want to be a wife? Or are you not keen on the "paper"..if that's even politically correct.. When I was younger I did not want to be a mother but as I get older that is all I think about now.

  3. @Javania,

    I don't want to get married for two reasons: 1. I don't want to be tied down, and 2. I'm selfish. I was a caregiver for 20 years and my life was devoted to the care of my parents. I didn't really go anywhere or do anything outside of caring for them. It was a full-time job. When I was finally free of that responsibility, I knew that I never wanted to be limited like that again. I enjoy my freedom and I love my life. I do what I want when I want and I don't have to clear my actions with anybody.

    There are times when it would be good to have a companion, but I'm so picky and persnickety that I know it's not likely to happen anytime soon. At any rate, I've become unreliable. And I don't want to share my space or my life with anyone, after having shared it with others for so many years. I think I'd lose my mind if I had to deal with another person so close. And I'm not trying to take care of another person again, so motherhood is out of the question.


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